If You’ve Ever Faked It in Bed, This Is For You

Why We Fake It, How to Stop, and How to Reclaim Real Pleasure

Let’s be honest.
Most people, especially women, have faked it in bed at least once.
Not to deceive.
But to protect someone’s ego.
To make it end faster.
To avoid discomfort.

But the cost of faking sex is high.
It creates disconnection, silences real needs, and replaces pleasure with performance.

At Indraya, we do not believe your body should be an actor.
We believe your intimacy should be a ritual.
Not rushed. Not forced. Not pretend.

If you’ve ever asked yourself:

• Why do I fake orgasms?
• How can I stop faking in sex and feel real pleasure?
• Is it normal to fake it just to avoid awkwardness?

This is your invitation to return to presence.

Why Do We Fake It?

From modern hookup culture to media scripts, many are taught that sex is a performance.
That good sex looks loud, dramatic, and orgasmic on demand.

But ancient Indian texts like the Kama Sutra and Ananga Ranga told a different story.
They centered intimacy on rhythm, breath, and mutual presence - not on climax alone.
Pleasure was sacred, slow, and co-created.

Faking sex disconnects us from that.
It trades truth for routine.

You deserve better.
You deserve to feel real.

1. Slow Everything Down

If you feel like you're racing toward a goal, pause.
The best way to stop faking in sex is to remove the pressure to "get there."

In Ayurveda and yogic texts, foreplay is called purva rati - the sacred beginning.
It was never meant to be skipped.

Indraya Ritual Tip:
Light a sandalwood candle. Dim the lights. Tell your partner, “Let’s just take our time tonight.”

Let foreplay become the destination, not the detour.

2. Speak Your Pleasure

You do not need to perform. You need to communicate.

In ancient love manuals like the Ratirahasya, lovers were taught to ask, respond, and adjust to their partner’s breath and sounds.
Words were part of arousal.

Try phrases like:

• “I love when you move slower”
• “Touch me here instead”
• “Can we pause for a moment and just breathe together?”

Truth: Pleasure does not grow in silence. It grows in honesty.

3. Release the Climax Script

An orgasm is not proof of connection.
It is one possible outcome, not the only one.

Ayurveda teaches that true satisfaction comes from ojas - the life force that builds through emotional safety, sensual rhythm, and trust.
Sometimes, slowing down is more powerful than finishing.

Let your touch be about connection, not completion.

Indraya Reminder:
You are not a checklist. You are a sacred experience.

4. Say No When You Need To

Consent is not a doorway you walk through once.
It is a continuous dialogue.

In the Kama Sutra, lovers pause often.
They wait for the body’s readiness.
They respect the energetic shift of each moment.

If something doesn't feel right, you can pause.
If you are not in the mood, you can choose rest.
This protects intimacy rather than disrupting it.

Ritual Practice:
Before intimacy, sit for one minute in silence.
Ask, "What does my body truly want tonight?"

That question alone can transform the entire experience.

5. Learn Your Own Body First

Sometimes, we fake it because we do not yet know what real pleasure feels like.
Masturbation, when practiced with intention, becomes a sacred map of desire.

In Tantra, self-touch is meditation.
It is a way to connect with your breath, your arousal, and your boundaries.

Try this:
Warm your hands. Use oil. Touch slowly with no goal.
Notice what awakens you.

What turns you on is personal and beautiful.
And once you learn it, you can invite your partner in.

Final Reflection: You Deserve Pleasure That Is Honest

You do not have to fake it.
You do not have to perform.
You do not need to finish every time.
But you do deserve to feel something real.

When sex becomes sacred again, faking becomes unnecessary.
You replace pressure with presence.
Silence with communication.
Performance with ritual.

At Indraya, we craft products and practices that honor this sacred return.
Massage candles that slow you down.
Body paints that invite play.
Sensual dice and rituals that help you feel, not perform.

Because your body deserves reverence.
And your pleasure deserves to be real.

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